The Blame Game
If we don’t stop blaming others every single day for our shortcomings, then we will never be able to embrace ourselves fully. Can we start recognizing our faults? We struggle with seeing ourselves as having many imperfections. If we fail a class, it’s our fault. The teacher is in no way, “out to get you”. A teacher takes pride in what he or she does every day and they truly WANT you to learn. Did you do all your assignments? Did you work, TRULY work, to your full potential? Did you participate in every single reading that was handed to you? If you failed, then the answer is likely no. It’s far easier and fulfilling to admit your lack of work to your teacher than it is to accuse an educator of not caring about your success. The reality, my dear friends, is that YOU have to care about your grade more than they do. By taking responsibility, you will, in turn, earn respect.
Nearly all of us have been reprimanded, written up, or fired from a job at some point in our lives. We tend to blame this on poor management. Were you timely in completing every work assignment? Did you show up on time every single day without succumbing to that enticing snooze button? Did you partake in the “leave your attitude at the door” movement when all you really wanted to do was crawl back into bed and cry? It may feel like you are trying to put a crack into the cement when you have to put that “fake smile” on your face, but we do it anyway. It is never the fault of management when you haven’t done the job that you were paid to do. We must own the fact that we failed, and that’s okay!! We all fail sometimes. Maybe it just wasn’t the job for you, maybe it wasn’t fulfilling. Life is full of tests and experiments. Quickly recognize what went wrong and move on to a different occupation. There is no time for blame.
How many of us can truly say that we have never been “cut” from a team, or eliminated before we had even started? If you are one of the few lucky people that excelled in sports through your entire career, then congratulations! For the rest of us, I would like to stress that no, it wasn’t the coach’s fault. Did we train the right way? Did we practice until blisters formed on our hands and feet? How bad did we truly want it? A coach is a mentor, who typically has other daytime obligations like a career and a family. They are there because they are impassioned with coaching you. In most cases, they work for very little monetary reward. Coaches are our mentors and typically form a relationship with their players that last throughout their lifetime. If you fail at a sport, try again! Practice harder. Schedule a meeting with your coach and ask he or she what you can do to improve. They will respect the fact that you care enough to swallow your pride and ask for help. It’s not the coach’s fault, rather your own disinterest or lack of physical ability. Sometimes we do not succeed in everything that we do, and that’s okay. We all have different talents and abilities that mold who we are.
You will never be able to realize your potential if you cannot outwardly recognize your failures and inadequacies. Let’s teach our children that to blame, means to fail. Let’s teach them that blame is a product of self-denial and nothing can be learned or improved upon while not being humble. If you find yourself pointing a finger, then you will never find yourself at all.
The person I most often point the finger of blame at is me. Which is also often counter productive.
ReplyDeleteI don't expect perfection from anyone else, but too often demand it of myself.
Oh yes. Many of us participate in that habit. We have to realize the perfection isn’t possible at any point or time. We just have to focus on what we excel in :)
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