Tuesday, July 1, 2014

The time machine

How much time do we spend on regret?  Is there an appropriate amount of reflection or is it harmful at any rate?  No one can truly travel back no matter how hard we might try.  Do you try to repair your past or do you just take the lessons that you can from it and run for your life?  I've spent an enormous amount of time in the last few weeks wondering what I would do differently if I could only go back. 
Mid life crisis?  Sure, it's a possibility.
If someone from your past comes back into your life from afar, do you embrace it?  Or do you run like hell and leave it all behind where it has remained for so many years?  Do you use that opportunity for closure and then just let life happen?  In my thinking, I have come up with, what I hope would be, five helpful rules for dealing with this issue.

#1-  Accept any and all apologies.  Always be humble.  Likely, the person apologizing needs to apologize to you more that you need the apology.  Accepting apologies doesn't equal giving in.

#2-  Don't spend excessive amounts of time living there (in the past).  It isn't beneficial to ignore the people in the present.  These people are here, right now, and for a good reason.

#3-  Don't be fooled into thinking that you can pick up exactly where you have left off.  The human mind and heart just simply don't operate that way as much as we would love for them to do so.  Can something wonderful happen??  Of course it can!! Just be aware that it may not.

#4-  Only travel back if you are certain of your present.

#5-  The grass will ALWAYS be greener on the other side, so be careful of the grounds that you travel back to.

  I will spend more time working on contentment.  After all, what exactly is it that I think I don't have?? :)