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Leave the Door Open

     When I am home all alone, I often get the creeps.  I make sure that all the doors are closed and locked at all times.  It occurred to me today that we all do that mentally as well.  We leave most doors in our lives closed out of fear.  It's a fear of rejection.  We are scared of being made fun of, especially in this small town, where everyone knows every single detail of your life, or at least they THINK that they do.  We are afraid of failure, and we are scared of our feelings of inadequacy.  We all dream endlessly of pursuing the life that we want, but we are just too afraid to go after it.  Why is this fear woven into our minds so tightly?  So what if you fail?  After all, isn't this what we try to teach our own children?  Do we not tell them to follow their dreams?  Are we hypocrites?  We have to start investing in our own lives.  Do you ever find yourself judging someone that is trying to better themselves?  We all do it.  We do it because we are secretly jealous that we didn't have the guts to put ourselves out there like that.  
     We all grew up hearing the same phrase.  "When one door shuts, another will open."  But this isn't true.  Doors don't open until you open them yourself.  So go ahead and open that door. There won't be any monsters on the other side.  The only monsters are the ones inside your own head.  

 Kristen 

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  1. Elephant's ChildMay 23, 2019 at 5:32 PM

    My introvert self likes (and needs) her time alone.
    I hear you about the monsters in my head though. Big ugly monsters with poisoned talons and sharp teeth.

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    1. Kristen HamiltonMay 23, 2019 at 5:33 PM

      Yes they are, and they can destroy us all too fast if we let them.

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  2. Geo.May 23, 2019 at 5:47 PM

    Constructive, helpful post! I'm in the middle of a muddle --extended family oriented-- and get very little of my wife's company because she is attending to her mother's caducity and her brother's habit of having his heart stop 4 or 5 times a week. Certainly these problems will be corrected by and by. Of course it's no fun, but I'm getting better at helping. You encourage me, Kristen . Thanks!

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    1. Kristen HamiltonMay 23, 2019 at 5:57 PM

      I’m so glad to give just a tad bit of inspiration!!!! Chin up!! Things will bet better for you, dear!!!

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  3. Julie Tucker-WolekMay 24, 2019 at 7:01 AM

    So true and this hit home, in a huge way!! I love this!!

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    1. Kristen HamiltonMay 24, 2019 at 7:58 AM

      It really is so so true. We have to put ourselves first sometimes.

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